Sunday, December 14, 2014

6 Ways to know you have painted your Past with Beautiful 'Present'

For most of us, past is never a pleasant experience. If past has been haunting you; it's time you take care of it. I will not ask you to forget your past, as it is really difficult; but yes, you can always avoid any thoughts that takes you back to your worst life.

Living a life that you have always wanted to live- is a great way to know that, you don't live in your past anymore. Still the impact is so deep; that the damages remain visible. 

If you want to heal the pain of the past, learn to compare the events from your present. Be free of the past, and you can move on and enjoy a happy and peaceful life. 

I had many ugly experiences in the past and never wanted to look back or have those memories back in my life. But the nagging pain of those dreadful memories kept blocking my happiness. I was not being able to enjoy my present life completely. Still there was emptiness; and  a huge burden of guilt and failures from past!

Six ways to know that you have painted your past with a beautiful present:

1. Marriage

You have found your love and have agreed to marry the person who loves you more and cares for your feelings. You know from your experiences that; it is important for you, your partner and specially for the kids to have a healthy marriage life. You are conscious about fights, arguments and any kind of relationship violence; that it  can cause serious damage to your marriage and kids. 
Marriage isn't just about you and your partner, but also about a 'home' where there should be love, care, dependency, need for each other and lots of trust and respect for each family members.

2. Kids

Your childhood may not have been good and beautiful, but you have painted a beautiful and love-filled life for your kids. You know what you couldn't get and achieve; you will always have it available for your kid (s). 

You were silent, scared, neglected and lonely; but you are teaching your kids to be confident of their capabilities, to be brave, bold and being open about any problems in their life. 

3. Career

Maybe your student life was a total failure or you never excelled academically, but you have achieved enormous experiences from past; and now you are following your dreams. You are doing what you have always wanted to do. Today also sometimes you fail in your attempts, but you know how to work hard to achieve the rewards, because you are doing something that you always to do and you love doing it!

4. Friendship

You had spilled many personal secrets to your 'close' friends, and they never kept it a secret. You were always judged and was never understood! Now you know whom you should be friends with, and to whom you can reveal some personal information. At present, you have few good friends whom you can trust and accept them in your life. 

5. Social life

May be you were forced to attend certain events and gatherings, that you never wanted to go. May be you had to sacrifice certain priorities to be present in such places, where you were entertaining and pleasing others- unhappily; but now you know where you should be present and where you should not! No more compromises at the cost of your family and kids. No more masking the 'pleasing' personality. 

Society is made of different kids of people and therefore being socially responsible doesn't always mean- listening and agreeing to others all the time. Sometimes you need to make a conscious choice.

6. Health and Peace

With the simplification and understanding of life comes inner peace and harmony. You have made certain conscious decisions to stay healthy and peaceful; either by learning your character and the strengths and weaknesses. You know why and when chaos touches lives and family.  

You have learned the trick of -"accept and let go." All the negatives from the past- like; something someone said and or did was always in your mind and heart, and you accepted it. The moment you accepted the fact, it started losing power and slowly all negative thoughts started flowing out from your life. 

Choosing to live in the past not only robs you of enjoyment today, but robs you of truly living. Live in present and love your today, and completely soak yourself in the present moments. Live every bit of it, just like there was no yesterday and there is no tomorrow. Whatever is there- just this day! 

Embrace your every day and stay optimistic. You had no control over your past, but your 'today' is completely yours to make it better for tomorrow. 

Monday, December 1, 2014

Epsita's Blog Title Change

Hello Dear Readers, Fans, Followers and Fellow Bloggers.

It has been an amazing journey with you all in my life. I was no one before I started my blog (s). I must say that you all have helped me a lot in fulfilling my dream of becoming a writer. Your encouraging words inspired me and helped me to discover the 'me,' who I am today.

My Blog, 'My Still Thoughts In Words' is changing into a new name- 'The Positive Window;' because I am going to reach to 'that window' in your life and open it for you to see the positive in your life.

Thank you for continuing your love and support. I sincerely appreciate your time and interest in my posts and articles. Thank you always for encouraging me to write more and more.

I hope you will continue to show your love and support and continue your journey with me.

Monday, November 10, 2014

Thoughts Make Us

Thoughts are not just the reflections of our mind, but mind and heart together. Sometimes mind rules over heart and vice versa ; while making any big or small decisions in life. This means our behavior, attitude or reactions to any particular event in life  are shaped by our thoughts.

I just love these two quotes on 'thoughts' by two great people:

"We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure joy follows like a shadow that never leaves."


"We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far."

                                                                     Swami Vivekananda

Thoughts can either make you the best person, or the worst anybody could ever imagine. I am no different than you.  Almost everyday I am hit by endless thoughts- both positive and negative. But through practice I have learned to focus only on my positive thoughts. What seems to be impossible on my part, I allow it to go. 

Being positive or negative all the time is completely our choice. So try to make the right choice for yourself and for the people whom you care. Nobody can force you to become negative as long as you don't like being one!

Each transition within you starts with your thoughts. So take control of how you think and react towards people, events or incidents that is happening or ever happened in your life.

I try my best to be better each day than I was the day before. I fail often. But I keep trying and I rise again. So your thoughts should be competitive enough to make you better everyday, than your previous day; and not with anybody else. 

When things are unfavorable or unfair and we feel helpless, negative thoughts just run through our mind, body and soul. 

Whenever I am hurt, humiliated, ignored, criticized, compared or face hostility; my days turn really dark. Even if I try harder, I fail to concentrate on the positive effects of the incident.  I ruin my day, my health, my relation with my husband and kids by constantly thinking about what happened. I am left with anger, frustration, guilt and regret; not just because I was at the receiving end, but because I could not behave the same way or say the same words to them. 

"What we think is what we become." Thoughts harness our capabilities. We all have the power to think beyond our capacity and imagination. To stretch beyond self-imposed limitations; but everything depends on our thinking excellence.

Our thoughts make us what we are; but we can still control what we 'want to be.' There is plenty of time to change the way thoughts appear in our mind. Good positive thoughts are very contagious. We can be either negatively contagious or positively contagious; because what we think matters. How we feel matters, and the energy we share with others, really matters! It not only affects our personal, professional and social relationships, it also affect us badly. Very badly.

I would like to share few of the various ways I try to practice Positive Thinking in life. It has always helped me to focus on the brighter and positive side of life. I am sure they will help you too!

1. Practice Gratitude:
Being thankful and feeling abundant for what we have received in life is the first trick to feel complete and positive in life. Always remember to Thank God for giving everything that you have in the present life. Many even do not have the minimum needs. Being grateful in life helps me to avoid all possible negative thoughts.
2. Know Yourself Better Than Anybody:
Take responsibility of your negative qualities or behavior. The more you ignore, the more it will hit you. Face the 'negative you' or the worst you and try to understand the reasons that trigger such emotions in you.
3. Practice to Stay Calm under Pressure:
"The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it open."- Arnold Glasgow, American humorist.

4. Smile even if it hurts:
Smiling is the only medicine that can create hope and willingness in life. The only cure to all negative happenings in present or future. Learn to smile even in the worst days. This not only gives calmness, but the positive power to face challenges too. 

5. Quiet your mind and be present:

"Think less and feel more."~ Osho
The more you are engaged in the thinking process (about past and future incidents), the less you live your present moments. Quiet your wandering thoughts and feel that's happening right now. Try to  live a mindful life in the present.

6. Concentrate on your happiness and health:
If you practice to stay happy, you will definitely stay healthy.

7. Avoid gossips and stop complaining:
Feel happy and blessed with what you have. 

8. Celebrate positive qualities and pay attention to the negatives:
Be honest about the negative qualities within you and try to change for your well-being. 

9. Do what's good for you:
You are the 'best' in knowing what you want and what is good and favorable for you. Stop the habit of living for others and later complaining about it. We are all gifted with the most precious thing called- life, and therefore we should have the control in deciding what's good for us; even if we fail sometimes. 

10. Learn to have your own opinion:
Listen to everybody, but try to focus on your decision. It matters!

Start your day with happy and positive thoughts. Rise with a positive opinion about your life, and good thoughts will follow. Hunt for those purposes and may be excuses that can keep you happy, peaceful and active all day. 

We cannot stop negative thoughts from coming in to our mind, but can always control them and take charge of our life from being negatively influenced!

Saturday, June 21, 2014

Excerpt From My Next Post: "Our Thoughts Make Us What We Are"

My Click...My Thought...

 "I try my best to be better each day than I was the day before. I fail often. But I keep trying and I rise again. So your thoughts should be competitive enough to make you better everyday than your previous day and not with anybody else. "

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

"Featured Blogger."

I am a 'Feature Blogger' on
Thank you Audrey for this opportunity. Please visit the link below to read more about me........